Islamic teachings on intercourse

Islam is true religion. Islam tells us everything about how to lead a perfect life. Allah has created us, and He knows better what is good for us. Islamic teachings are those instructions that are advised to us by our Lord(Allah). If we want to live a perfect life, we should have to hold the rope of Allah. Here are some instructions from different Hadees about intercourse.

1) One-time intercourse is necessary for a newly married couple within one year.     

Yahya informed me that Ibn Al-Musayyab said, "If someone marries a lady and cannot have sex with her, there is a deadline of a year set for him to have sex with her. They are split apart if he doesn't." Reference Book No. 29, Hadees No. 74; Muwatta Malik: 1236; Book No. 29, In English.

2) Dua during sexual activity 

Ibn Abbas narrated that once Nabi(S.A.W) said, "If anyone among you, when having sexual intercourse with his wife, says:

اللَّهُمَّ جَنِّبْنِي الشَّيْطَانَ، وَجَنِّبِ الشَّيْطَانَ مَا رَزَقْتَنَا،

 And if it is destiny that they should have a kid, then Satan will never be able to harm him.: Reference Bukhari: 5165; Book 67; English volume 7; Book 62; Hadees no. 94.

3) Act after having sex with the wife
Following a sexual act, you are permitted to sleep or eat.

i. Hazrat Ayesha(R.A) reported After having sex, whenever Nabi(S.A.W)  intended to sleep, He did ablution (wazoo) in preparation for the prayer. See Muslim 305 A; Book No. 3; In English; Book No. 3; Hadees No. 597.

ii. Hazrat Ayesha(R.A) reported Reference Muslim 305 B; Book no. 3; In English; Book no. 3; Hadees no. 598. Nabi(S.A.W)  did the ablution (wazoo) for prayer whenever He had sexual contact and intended to eat or sleep.

4) If you have sex a second time that night, you should have to perform ablution (wazoo) each time.

When any of you have had sexual relations with his wife and wish to have the relationship again, you should conduct ablution (wazoo) between them, narrated by Abu Saeed Al-Khudri. Hadees number 220; Abu Dawud; Book number 1; Book number 1 in English.

5) Bathing after sexual activity is obligatory and performed by Prophet Muhammad(S.A.W).

i. Ibn Ma-jah: 610; Book no. 34; In English volume no. 1; Book no. 1, Hadees no 653. As reported by Abu Hurairah(R.A) that Nabi(S.A.W) stated, "When a man sits between the four parts and has intercourse, then a bath is necessary."[Four parts(arms and legs)]                                                 

ii.  According to Hazrat Urwa(R.A), who spoke on the authority of Hazrat Ayesha(R.A), when the Prophet Muhammad (S.A.W) took a bath because of sexual activity, He washed His hands first and then dipped one of them into the basin before performing ablution (wazoo), which is what is done for prayer. For more information, see Muslim 316 D; Book no. 3; In English; Book no. 3; Hadees no. 619.

iii. Hazrat Ayesha(R.A) Said When Nabi Kareem(S.A.W) took a bath after engaging in sexual activity, He called for a container, grabbed a handful of water from it, washed first the right side of His head, then the left, and then grabbed another handful and poured the water on His head. Reference Muslim: 318; English: Book 3; Hadees: 623; Muslim: 318; Book 3

iv. According to Hazrat Ayesha(R.A), Nabi(S.A.W) used to take a bath after four things: after having sex, on Fridays, after drawing blood from his body (hijamah), and after washing a dead body. Reference: In English; Book No. 1, Hadees No. 120; Bulugh Al-Maram: 112 Book No. 1. 

v. According to Hazrat Ayesha(R.A), every time Nabi(S.A.W) took a bath after engaging in sexual activity, He would wash His hands first, then use His right hand to pour water onto His left hand and clean His sexual organ. Then, after performing ablution (wazoo), he used to take some water and run his fingers over the hair's roots. After that, He would wash His feet before pouring three handfuls of water on His head, the remainder of His body, and finally, His feet. Reference Book No. 1, in English; Book No. 1, Hadees No. 128; Bulugh Al-Maram: 119. 

vi. Abdullah Bin Abu'l-Qais(R.A) reportedly stated I questioned 'Hazrat Ayesha(R.A) about the Witr (prayer) of Nabi(S.A.W) and mentioned a Hadees before inquiring as to what He did after engaging in sexual activity. Did He take a bath before sleeping, or did He sleep first and then take a bath? She retorted, "He did all of these," in response. Sometimes He had a bath before falling asleep, and other times He just performed ablution (wazoo) before sleeping. Praise be to Allah, Who has made things simple, I (the narrator) said (for human beings). Reference Muslim: 307 A; Book no. 3; In English; Book no. 3; Hadees no. 603.

vii. Hazrat Ayesha(R.A) narrated that Nabi (S.A.W) would usually go to sleep in the first part of the night and awake up later in the other parts. If He wanted to have sexual interaction with His wife at that point, He got what He wanted and went to bed; then He got up(by Allah, she, i. e. ‘A’isha, did not say” he stood up” ) when the first call to prayer was raised, and doused him with water and if he did not have intercourse, he performed ablution, just as a man performs ablution for prayer and then observed two rak’ahs. : Reference Muslim: 739; Book no. 6; In English; Book no. 4; Hadees no. 1612.

6) Guidelines about clothes in which intercourse is done

According to Jabir Bin Samurah(R.A), "A guy asked Nabi(S.A.W) whether he may pray in a garment in which he had sexual contact with his wife. Yes, unless he notices something on it; in that case, he should wash it, He(S.A.W) replied. Reference Ibn Ma'jah: 585; Book no. 1; In English volume no. 1; Book no.1 Hadees no 542.

 

7) Avoid being completely naked when having sex

According to Utbah Bin Abd Sulamain, the Nabi said: "When any of you have sexual relations with your wives, let him cover himself and not be naked like donkeys." Reference Ibn Ma-jah: 1996; Book no. 9; In English volume no. 3; Book no. 9, Hadees no 1921.

 

8)Islamic laws and Nabi's instructions regarding illicit or forbidden sexual activity

i. Ibn Abbas(R.A) stated: "If one had sex at the beginning of the menstrual cycle, one should give one dinar; if one had sex at the end of the menstrual cycle, one should offer half a dinar." Reference In English Book no. 1; Hadees no. 265;  Abu Dawud: 265; Book no. 1  

ii. "Whoever participates in sexual activity with a menstrual woman or a woman in her anus, visits a black magician(soothsayer), then he has distrust in what was disclosed to Muhammad," stated Nabi(S.A.W), according to Abu Hurairah(R.A), who recounted this. Reference Book No. 1(Tirmazi) Hadees 135; In English book No. 1 Hadees No. 135 Volume No. 1

iii. According to Anas(R.A), the Jews used to forbid eating with a lady who was having her period, but Nabi(S.A.W) advised, "Do everything else apart from sexual intercourse (with your wives)."Reference Book No. 1; Bulugh Al-Maram: 144, In English; Hadees no 155, Book no. 1. 

iv. According to Zaid Bin Khalid(R.A), Nabi(S.A.W) reportedly ordered an unmarried man who engaged in illicit sexual activity to get 100 lashes and a one-year exile.Reference Book no. 52; Bukhari: 2649;  In English Book no. 48; volume no. 3;  Hadees no. 817.

v. Hazrat Abu Hurairah(R.A)[A well-known sahabi] narrated that the Prophet Nabi(S.A.W) said: "Allah will not look at a man who has sex with his wife in her buttocks. "Reference Ibn Ma-jah: 1998; Book # 9; In English volume #. 3; Book #. 9, Hadees # 1923.

vi. According to Abu Hurairah(R.A), Nabi(S.A.W) said, "A person who engages in unlawful sexual activity is not a believer at the time of engaging in unlawful sexual activity, just as a person who engages in theft is not a believer at the time of engaging in theft and a person who consumes alcoholic beverages is not a believer at the time of consumption. But after that, (the doorway of) repentance is open. Reference Bukhari:  Book no. 86; Hadees no 6810; In English Book no. 82; volume no. 8; Hadees no. 801. 

vii. According to Zaid Bin Khalid(R.A) and Abu Huraira(R.A), the Nabi(S.A.W) reportedly remarked, "O Unais! Go to this man's wife, and if she admits to engaging in illicit sexual activity, stone her to death. Reference Bukhari: Book no. 40; 2314 & 2315; In English  Book no. 38; volume no. 3; Hadees no.508. 

viii. Ibn Umar reported that a Jew brought a man and a woman who had engaged in unlawful sexual activity to the Prophet (S.A.W), and He (S.A.W) gave the order to stone them to death, which was done close to the mosque where the biers had stood. Reference Book no. 96; Bukhari: 7332;  In English Book no. 92; volume no. 9; Hadees no. 432.